THIS IS DEFINTELY NOT YOUR USUAL SELF-HELP!
I believe that when you know and understand the basics of Reaction Intelligence and the 5 Phases of Self Mastery, you can finally take full accountability for your Reactions, Thoughts, Emotions, Actions AND your life.
The rest simply falls into place.
"What is Reaction Intelligence?"
Reaction Intelligence is knowing whether you're reacting to what's actually happening now, reacting to patterns from your past, or assumptions, and being able to stop, think, and respond accordingly.
Ok, so that's really simple. But what's really going on? Is this Emotional Intelligence (EI) or something more?
Think of it as a prequel to EI. If you understand what's causing unhelpful reactions (there are 4 types of reaction and only one is unhelpful), you'll find yourself reacting less to things that don't need a reaction, having less unhelpful interactions and actually be calmer, more focused and enjoy life more, in all areas.
Here' a few images that explain what's going on in your head when a situation we don't know how to handle comes up. (By "Handling" I don't mean having a reaction or emotional outburst to make your point known!)
We all have a Charlie and a Dai,
often competing for attention and working against each other. When you learn to identify them, separate them, and understand how each of them plays a role in our past, present and future, and how to train our Dai (pronounced Di) we can find that calm and peace we really want.
All of my books, courses and coaching revolve around this simple idea of separating instinct from unhelpful reaction from emotion. It's about understanding what your Charlie is doing, while simultaneously working with your Dai to teach him how to deal with the present, in the present, without listening to Charlie every single time. (sometimes it's ok and you'll learn when that is too!)
I then show you how to take steps to achieve the things you want and be the person who is helpful to yourself and the people you love.
From someone with ADHD who has spent a lifetime finding patterns in everything, this is the patterns and processes that will make the biggest impact for the most number of people... IF you use it.
Scroll through the (very simplified) story below to understand how we develop our patterns and behaviours in a little slide show.
So, what's your "problem"?
EMOTIONALLY REACTIVE AT HOME BUT NOT WORK? FRUSTRATED AT THE HABITS YOU PICKED UP FROM CHILDHOOD? WANT A BETTER RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR PARTNER / KIDS/ COLLEAGUES? THERE'S A SOLUTION HERE FOR YOU.
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The Connection Code saved my marriage. We both needed this and being able to understand each other and listen better has been life changing. Worth ten times what Nolan is charging"
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